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Monday, May 17, 2010

The mind of 30-something-year-old-man

I know what it is like in the mind of a 30-year-old woman because I am one. But, with all the Peter Pans living in Los Angeles, I thought I should pick up a copy of Aaron Karo's new book and check out this species myself.

Do you remember Aaron Karo? He was the guy that wrote Ruminations when he was in college? Funny anecdotal quotes about life, love and beer? I thought he was hilarious then and now he is just a wealth of knowledge.

There is a lot of incredible info coming from this 30-year-old-man-mind, so I plan on putting up a few quotes from Aaron and any other men who have something to share (just email me at mylifeonmatch@gmail.com).

Ladies (and Peter Pans), to start off this new series, I wanted to share a quote from "I'm Having More Fun Than You" (Aaron's recent book, you can get it here)...

"When the check comes, there should be absolutely no debate: I'm paying. Ladies, any guy who doesn't pay for you is fucking worthless. Any guy who offers to split the check should hand in his man badge and have his testicles confiscated at the door: he's done. If we make it a few more dates, personally I appreciate when the girl does the fake, reaching-for-her-purse move. I'm still paying, but I respect the fact that she is playing along. A few more dates and yes, I will let the girl pay. But, only if she insists. I know I've been spending a shitload of money on her the past few weeks. I also know she's spent a shitload of money on clothes, makeup, waxing (fyi. a cheap brazilian starts around $50), manicures, and other crap I can't even consciously perceive, but all of which collectively made me want to go out with her in the first place."

I love it. Thoughts?


  1. Nothing is more annoying or emasculating as when a girl insists on paying her part of the check on the first date. Don't get me wrong. I'm no wuss insisting on buying someone's affection. I've worked way too hard for my money to squander it on a piece of ass.

    But seriously, ladies, let us handle it: we asked you out, we picked the place to meet, it's only the gentlemanly thing to do to pay for the meal. If you throw a wad of cash our way, we take that to mean one of two things: 1) you don't think we're enough of a gentleman to pay for our date, or 2) you're way too "liberated" and independent (read: are you trying to find someone who will become dependent on you because I ain't that guy). Sure, on some subsequent date down the road, I am more than happy to let her pay. Women are playing a much bigger role in society now and, as such, SHOULD do their part to help out in a budding relationship. But please, for your sake and ours, let us take at least the first date...it's what a lady would do.

  2. Christian, someone is going to scoop you up soon if you keep talking like this!

  3. WHy didn't Aaron ask me out? I live in L.A. I've paid for most of my out-of-work actor/ producer dates, mostly because I offered out of courtesy and they were relieved. Sigh.

  4. Ha! Kelly, I think you should just email him and see what happens! What do you have to lose? And... no more paying for first dates!

  5. Just when I thought I couldn't like Aaron Karo anymore...this post was brilliant...I think I'm going to have to pick up that book...though technically since I've met so many men NOT like him I feel it might disappoint me further lol!

  6. Oh, the quotes in here get even better! Stay tuned... I'm loving the mind of the 30-something-year-old-man!

  7. Emily, maybe. But not too soon, I hope. My 20s were awesome and fun. But now that I'm coming into my own, the first year of my 30s is shaping up quite nicely...that is to say THIS single 30-something-year-old guy just might stay single for a little longer...I can be picky like that ;)

  8. Thanks for the shout Emily (if that is your real name....)